Why good people do bad things

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I was asking the Universe a lot of questions last week about why some people get hurt and others do the hurting, and this is the response that came to me. Mind you, I don't hear Spirit or get big visions, I receive guided intuition and feel in my heart if it's right nor not. That's how I channel. It's still a learning process, but over this last year I have learned to listen and trust what comes through. What I was told was that the reason why some people hurt others, especially those they seemingly love and care about, is because they are not listening to their inner guidance, Spirit, etc. and are currently at a place where they are ego driven—which means they live off of fears, anger, base needs, wants, selfishness. It doesn't mean they're bad, it means they are in an infant stage of spiritual development and can't, and don't want to, change just yet. They could read the Bible all day, every day, but because they cling to the ego they're not going to feel how truly devastating some of their behavior is. When they hurt another person, it's a sickness. They are stuck in a dark place and can't feel because they are literally unwell in so many ways, but can't see it because they think it's normal.

Let's say you have a mother who won't allow her daughter to grow up. She won't buy her nice clothes, won't let her get her hair done, ears pierced, won't let her wear makeup or go out on any dates, and the daughter is old enough to do all of these things. The mother is being selfish, and to be honest, mean. She's stopping the girl's growth and free will because of what SHE wants, not what the daughter wants. If she steps back and directs things with a more heart-centered viewpoint, really listens to her daughter, she'll trust that all will be well by letting the girl make her own choices---something we all must do as we grow up and become adults. She's stuck in a place of fear because maybe when she was young she acted wild and got in trouble, or maybe she was never allowed to do anything and resents the fact. But still we ask, why. Why can't the mother know that she's being unreasonable? Why can't some people feel this inside of themselves? The answer is, they're not ready. Consider yourself lucky to be one of those with compassion and sensitivity. Send out light and love to those who aren't. Eventually they will develop these skills (we all do) through loss or change. But for now, they are incompetent and have no skills to understand.

Using another example, let's say you have a husband who won't let his wife go, even if she's told him that it's over and that she wants a divorce. He spies, manipulates, uses control tactics to keep her around--to the point where she could never love him again because he's violated her personal space so much and cut off her off from the world that she's now a victim. Even when she tells him how she feels, he's angry and says it's all her fault because she can't love him the way he wants. Why would he do that, knowing deep inside that it's driving her away, as opposed to making her want to come closer? The reason is he's afraid--so afraid that it's blinded him from feeling her inner turmoil and loss. He's afraid if he does try to understand her viewpoint, he'll lose a battle that he's set himself up to win--come hell or high water. And he must not lose. He'll lie, steal, spy, do anything to win. The truth is he won't win because you can't make someone love you. He has to find self-love, because when you learn how to love yourself, you can love and extend compassion to anyone and anything. Maybe when he was a child his mother left him for work. Maybe she HAD to work to pay the bills, but he took it as a personal attack. He's never gotten over that feeling of being abandoned, and now his wife has become his mother--he's angry and won't ever let it happen again. Once more, he has to learn to love himself. He has to understand that marriage and divorce can sometimes be part of the life cycle. It doesn't have to be personal, it just is. He can be whole and find happiness, but first he must let go of the toxic cycle, and move on so a healthier one can come to be. His wife will be healed, and he will be healed. They both win.

In any situation, the problem is we are all at different stages of spiritual/personal development. Some of us are beginners, some of us are experts. Send love out to all, and develop love inside of yourself, as a gift to yourself. That's where it starts. We are all conveyors of Divine Love. It starts with us, leaves us, heals us, heals each other, and comes back again. This doesn't mean you allow others to hurt you--that's actually the point: if you love yourself you won't allow others to hurt you, and you won't do the hurting.

I hope this helps. I'll try to write more as I'm inspired to do so. Thanks for reading and many blessings to you!

Peace.

Messages of the day—June 20, 2016

Nine of Wands: You have fought long and hard for something in your life and are not about to give up. It's been like riding a bucking horse, or a mechanical horse, but this time you are not to let go and fall off. Something in your gut says: no more. Not this time. The reason you are being so defiant and bullheaded is because you've seen the pattern and why you always come out on the short end of the stick with things, and whereas before you used to shrug it off and say it's okay, this time it's as if you are filled with a new fiery viewpoint, like a runner about to cross the finish line first. This is your time, and no backing down. That doesn't mean you have to be tricky or hurt others to get what you want, quite the opposite, it means you won't let them to that to YOU anymore. Something's about to be accomplished and you should be proud. Revel in the moment and hold inside yourself a quiet confidence that all will be well. Trust.

Seeing through the fog

I'm so happy that it's sunny today! There's nothing that makes me more cheerful than a bright, clear sky. I hate to admit my emotional propensity to the weather, but it's true! I really do love a sunny day, and no matter how I've tried to do reverse psychology on myself, it just doesn't work. Give me that sun! It's an instant mood lifter.

I wanted to talk today about justice, and karmic justice in particular. I was upset about something that's been going on in my life and kept tripping over it until the point where it was ridiculous. Why would this particular person do this to me? What was I going to do about it? How do I stop them from doing it again, and when would I receive retribution for all they've put me through? Well, I laid out a tarot spread and right there in front of me was the answer: I was to do nothing. Absolutely nothing. The person in mind came up in the cards, then some of their less-than-positive actions, and wrapped around it was Judgement and Justice. Divine Justice.

So often we seek revenge for things that have happened to us, forgetting that true payment is coming, and on a much bigger scale. Wash your hands of revenge. It's not up to you, or me.

I truly love that this is how the Universe works. I'm neither sad that I don't get to do my own act of revenge, nor do I feel useless. I'm so happy that it's being dealt with in the proper way. My job is to sit back, have faith, and live my life in the most honest, altruistic way possible. We are to forgive, but not necessarily forget. That's the only way to move on and heal. The problem is, sometimes we get hurt so frequently that it becomes hard to recover. But that's another issue . . .

I'd rather talk about Paris. Dear Paris. They have just recently endured an act of human-forced Justice, and look how much pain it has caused—how much doubt and darkness. We must not enforce our own violent acts of control over others. We must not. So often we are wrong. It takes away the innocence of the world when we do these things. Now Paris, the city of love, is the city of fear and shadows. So sad. I hope they can recover from this and move on and be the beautiful empire of love and light that we so admire. Remember, they gifted to America the Statue of Liberty—a true offering of peace and humanity. That gift has given so many an incredible sense of hope—hope for real justice. From her torch, to the tip of the Eiffel Tower, we send healing to you.

For today's cards, I decided to choose from the Earth Magic Oracle Deck and Doreen Virtue's Angel Tarot Cards. And what I pulled was Fog—Veiled, and Nine of Fire (wands).

It's funny, I often identify the 'Veiled' card with my cat Opera. She's dark and moody and likes to hide and watch things from a distance. How appropriate! I think what this card is telling us is that, no matter how murky and hidden things appear, there is still clarity available to us. We just have to wait and trust. Believe me, I know all too well how hard it is to wait! But when we rush things, and especially in times of uncertainly, we are only asking for less-than our value, or clunkers that require even more time, effort and money. It's all about trust. ETA: I just thought about how I opened this post and thought it was funny that this card appeared. Maybe the universe is telling me to stop being so glum when it's cloudy outside!

The Nine of Fire card tells us not to give up on our important endeavors, because wonderful things are just around the corner. Protect that which you've worked so hard to achieve. Don't give away your most sacred gifts to those who will only destroy them. Be steadfast and willing to stand your ground. If it matters to you, it matters. Period.

Take care, my friends. Peace, love and light.